Are you tired of going on endless dates and still not finding the right man?
You scroll through dating apps endlessly. *left swipe* *left swipe* *left swipe* *left swipe*
Going on dates that led to nowhere.
And when it does?
He ghosted you after you showed him interest.
With so many dating apps and websites available, finding a high value man can seem like a daunting task. Not to mention, you are on the wrong dating apps *cough* Tinder *cough* (it’s not really a dating app, let’s be honest here).
However, there are certain strategies you can use to increase your chances of meeting a compatible partner. Forget about the dating apps for now, you can check them out later. First, let me show you how to truly find a good match.
Understanding Yourself
Before you can find a good high value man, it’s important to understand yourself. This means identifying your needs and wants, clarifying your values, putting work into yourself, and becoming a high value woman.
Identifying Your Needs and Wants
Take some time to reflect on what you truly need and want in a relationship.
Are you stuck? Give it a few more minutes. I’ll wait…
This is not the time to say “I want a man that makes 6 figures” or “he needs to be at least 6″0”. I hate to break it to you, but these are not the important aspects of a relationship.
Maybe you are looking for a long-term relationship that you feel loved, respected, and appreciated. Maybe you want someone you can be goofy and silly around. These, ladies, are the important aspects of all relationships.
There are several things to look for. This might include things like honesty, communication, emotional support. It’s important to be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for so that you can find someone who is a good match for you.
We will have a detailed post about identifying your needs and how to “manifest” your wants into your life. Stay tuned!
Clarifying Your Values
Values are the things that are most important to you in life! They might include things like family, career, or personal growth.
Clarifying your values can help you make decisions about what kind of relationship you want and what kind of partner would be a good fit for you. When you put family, careers, and physical health above everything else in your life, that is when you achieve value. In other words, if you prioritize things that hold immense value, you yourself become high value.
Put the Work into Yourself
Before you can attract the high value man of your dreams, you need to be the kind of person that a good man would want to be with. This means putting work into yourself, whether that’s through personal growth, education, or self-care. When you’re happy and fulfilled as an individual, you’re more likely to attract someone who is happy and fulfilled as well. This includes things like
- Working out
- Skin care
- Good hobbies
- Solid education
I once heard a saying that goes “Don’t expect results for the work you didn’t put in.” Read that until it sinks in.
We have a in-depth blog about Self Development For Women (we also have one for Men). I suggest you read this if you want a high value man… you can’t achieve what you don’t work for.
Become a High Value Woman
A high value woman is someone who knows her worth and isn’t willing to settle for less than she deserves. This means setting boundaries, being confident, and valuing yourself. When you’re a high value woman, you’re more likely to attract a high value man who will treat you with the respect and love that you deserve.
However, you need to make sure not to mix up the characteristics that define a high value woman with those that define a high value man. In the modern days, we often get mixed up. We think that we need to make our own money, have a car and our own place, and have a Ph.D. and Master’s to be a high value women. That is WRONG!!!
Men have different criteria to define what makes a high value woman, and you only know you are a high-value woman when high value men pick you as their long-term partner. I am sorry to burst your bubble, but at the end of the day, we have to be realistic about who we are. You might think you are a 10 but others probably don’t.
Yes, Confidence matters, but there is a fine line between confidence and delusion. However, I will tell you a secret. Ready? Women are BORN with value, baby! all you need to do is protect it.
We go more in depth about a ladies true value in this blog about Feminine Energy. But you can read that a little later; Now, the fun part…
Finding Potential Partners
When it comes to finding a good man, there are several ways to expand your options. Here are a few methods to consider:
Expanding Your Social Circle
One way to meet potential partners is to expand your social circle. This can involve joining clubs or groups based on your interests, attending events, or volunteering. By doing so, you can meet people who share your hobbies and values, which can help form a strong foundation for a relationship.
Trying Online Dating
Online dating is increasing in popularity and for good reason. It can be a great way to meet people outside of your immediate social circle. There are many dating apps and websites available, so it’s important to do your research and choose one that aligns with your goals and values. Be honest in your profile and take the time to get to know someone before meeting in person.
Going to Social Events
Social events, such as parties or networking events, can also be a great way to meet potential partners. These events provide an opportunity to meet people in a relaxed and social setting and can help you expand your network. Be open to meeting new people and striking up conversations with those who catch your interest.
You will never meet a potential partner if you don’t put yourself out there. I know it sounds scary but you got this! even if you get rejected, you will be proud of yourself that you tried something new. And remember, finding a good man takes time and effort. Be patient, stay true to yourself, and don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.
Taking classes or courses
Taking classes or courses in subjects that interest you can be a great way to meet people who share your intellectual curiosity. Not only will you meet cool new people, but it will also give you something productive to do with your time, and who knows, maybe you’ll learn a thing or two.
Going to the gym or fitness classes
Going to the gym or fitness classes can be a great way to meet people who are health-conscious and share your interest in fitness.
Assessing Compatibility
When looking for a good man, it’s important to assess your compatibility with him. Obviously, that’s what dating is all about. This means evaluating your shared interests, communication styles, and relationship goals.
Communicating Effectively
Effective communication is key to any successful relationship. When assessing compatibility, pay attention to how you and your potential partner communicate. Are you able to have open and honest conversations? Do you feel heard and understood? Are you able to resolve conflicts in a healthy way?
Sharing Common Interests
While it’s not necessary to have all the same interests, sharing some common ones can help build a strong connection. Consider hobbies or activities you enjoy and see if your potential partner has similar interests. This can lead to shared experiences, a deeper understanding of each other, and some fun future dates. Sharing intrests is actually kind of important for a stable relationship to work out.
“Shared interests serve the same function that commitment does, with the same two contrasting effects. They both provide a glue that maintains the relationship through tough times and gives the people in the relationship a chance to work on it, but may also keep the relationship together long after it stopped serving its purpose of making the partners feel happy and fulfilled” (White, 2016, Psychology Today).
Evaluating Relationship Goals
It’s important to evaluate your relationship goals and ensure they align with your potential partner’s. This can include discussing topics such as marriage, children, and future plans. Having similar goals can help build a strong foundation for a long-lasting relationship.
Building a Healthy Relationship
When it comes to finding a good man, building a healthy relationship is key. Here are some tips to help you establish a strong foundation:
Establishing Trust and Respect
Trust and respect are the foundation of any healthy relationship. You can establish trust by being honest and transparent with your partner. Respect can be shown by listening to your partner’s opinions and feelings, and treating them with kindness and consideration.
Some ways to establish trust and respect in your relationship include:
- Being honest with each other
- Communicating openly and respectfully
- Avoiding blame and criticism
- Showing appreciation for each other
Maintaining Open Communication
Open communication is essential for a healthy relationship. It allows you and your partner to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs, and work through any issues that may arise.
Here are some tips for maintaining open communication:
- Listen actively to your partner
- Express yourself clearly and honestly
- Avoid interrupting or talking over each other
- Be willing to compromise and find solutions together
Nurturing Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy is the feeling of closeness and connection that comes from sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with your partner. It is an important part of a healthy relationship.
Here are some ways to nurture emotional intimacy:
- Make time for each other
- Share your thoughts and feelings
- Be supportive and understanding
- Show affection and appreciation
Firstly, it’s important to define what you’re looking for in a man. Take some time to reflect on your values, interests, and goals, and think about what qualities are important to you in a partner. This will help you to identify men who share similar values and interests and increase the likelihood of a successful relationship.
Another important factor is to be open to meeting new people. Join social groups or clubs that align with your interests, attend events, and try new hobbies. This will give you the opportunity to meet people who share your passions and increase your chances of meeting a good man.
Take Away
In your journey of finding a partner, it’s important to first prioritize yourself. Work on yourself not only externally, but also internally like finding your true values, beliefs, needs, wants, and love language. Knowing who you are and what you stand for is extremely important especially when it comes to being in or finding a relationship. As cliché as it may sound, you have to love yourself before you can truly love another person.
Your pen pal,
L